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title: 100 questions to ask your parents | Plan Before You Die
url: https://planbeforeyoudie.app/tools/questions-for-parents
source: Plan Before You Die
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# 100 questions to ask your parents

Choose a few questions about accounts, care, wishes, and family stories. Pick ten for one visit, then print them.
- 1**Which banks do you use?**
- 2**Where do you keep your account list?**
- 3**Who would you call about a missing bill?**
- 4**Which bills need attention each month?**
- 5**How do you keep track of autopay?**
- 6**Who could explain your household budget?**
- 7**Where do you keep your insurance papers?**
- 8**Who do you contact about retirement accounts?**
- 9**When did you last review your beneficiaries?**
- 10**Which subscriptions would you want someone to review?**
- 11**Where do you keep your tax papers?**
- 12**Who prepares your tax return?**
- 13**How do you keep track of regular donations?**
- 14**Where would someone find your mortgage papers?**
- 15**Who knows about any storage rental?**
- 16**Which accounts belong to you both?**
- 17**Where do you keep records of money owed?**
- 18**Who should someone contact about your pension?**
- 19**What would you want someone to pay first?**
- 20**Would you like to make an account list together?**
- 21**Who is your main doctor?**
- 22**Where do you keep your medicine list?**
- 23**Which pharmacy do you use?**
- 24**Who would you want at a medical appointment?**
- 25**Who have you chosen to speak about your care?**
- 26**Where do you keep your health care papers?**
- 27**Who knows where your health insurance card is?**
- 28**How would you like family to share updates?**
- 29**What helps you feel comfortable in a hospital?**
- 30**Who should someone call in an emergency?**
- 31**Which allergies should your medicine list include?**
- 32**Where do you keep your doctor contact list?**
- 33**Who could take care of things during a hospital stay?**
- 34**What would make it easier to ask for help?**
- 35**Which daily routines matter most to you?**
- 36**What would you want to bring for an overnight stay?**
- 37**Who could drive you to appointments?**
- 38**Would you like someone to take notes with you?**
- 39**What questions would you like to ask your doctor?**
- 40**When should we check your contact list again?**
- 41**Which phone do you use most?**
- 42**Who would you want to help with phone settings?**
- 43**Where do you keep your phone purchase records?**
- 44**Which email address do you use for important messages?**
- 45**Have you chosen a Legacy Contact?**
- 46**Would you like to review your Google account settings?**
- 47**Which photos would you most want the family to keep?**
- 48**Where do you back up your photos?**
- 49**Who knows which phone company you use?**
- 50**What online accounts should appear on your list?**
- 51**Which social accounts matter to you?**
- 52**What would you like to happen to your online photos?**
- 53**Who could help you find official account instructions?**
- 54**Do you use a password manager?**
- 55**Have you checked its official emergency access options?**
- 56**Which devices have family photos?**
- 57**Where do you keep receipts for those devices?**
- 58**Which online subscriptions would someone need to know about?**
- 59**Would you like to make a list of important accounts?**
- 60**When could we review your phone settings together?**
- 61**What do you want your family to understand about you?**
- 62**Which choices would you like to write down?**
- 63**Where should we look for your personal letter?**
- 64**Who would you want to look after your pets?**
- 65**What would your pet caretaker need to know?**
- 66**Which belongings have a story you want to share?**
- 67**Who should someone call about your home?**
- 68**Where do you keep spare keys?**
- 69**Which traditions would you like us to keep?**
- 70**What would you want us to do with family recipes?**
- 71**Who should know where your papers are?**
- 72**Who would you choose as a backup contact?**
- 73**What would help you feel that your plan reflects you?**
- 74**Which questions would you like to discuss with a lawyer?**
- 75**Is there anything you would rather discuss privately?**
- 76**Who should receive a copy of your contact list?**
- 77**Which wishes would you like to put in your own words?**
- 78**What would you want someone to know about your daily routine?**
- 79**What should we ask before making plans with you?**
- 80**What would you like us to talk about next?**
- 81**What did your childhood home look like?**
- 82**Who made you laugh when you were young?**
- 83**What was your first job?**
- 84**Which teacher do you still remember?**
- 85**What did you like to do after school?**
- 86**What song brings back a happy memory?**
- 87**How did you meet your closest friend?**
- 88**What family story should we record?**
- 89**Which place would you like us to visit together?**
- 90**What did your parents cook for a celebration?**
- 91**Which recipe would you like to teach us?**
- 92**What object reminds you of someone you love?**
- 93**What did you enjoy about raising a family?**
- 94**What skill are you glad you learned?**
- 95**Which photograph would you like to tell us about?**
- 96**What changed your mind about something important?**
- 97**Who helped you at a turning point?**
- 98**What are you proud of that we may not know?**
- 99**What would you like younger relatives to remember?**
- 100**Which story should we ask you about another day?**

[Read the family conversation guide](https://planbeforeyoudie.app/talk)

## Good to know

### Do I have to ask all 100?

No. Pick a few that fit your visit. Your parent can skip any question.

### Are my answers saved?

This tool collects no answers to the conversation questions. Your selection stays in this page until you leave.

### Can I print a shorter list?

Choose Pick 10 for me. Print shows those ten questions on one sheet.