Plan Before You Die
Get startedGet started

100 questions to ask your parents

Choose a few questions about accounts, care, wishes, and family stories. Pick ten for one visit, then print them.

Does anyone besides you know where your original will is?

Yes No Not sure

Your answer starts the free readiness check. We count answers without knowing who you are.

  1. 1
    Which banks do you use?
  2. 2
    Where do you keep your account list?
  3. 3
    Who would you call about a missing bill?
  4. 4
    Which bills need attention each month?
  5. 5
    How do you keep track of autopay?
  6. 6
    Who could explain your household budget?
  7. 7
    Where do you keep your insurance papers?
  8. 8
    Who do you contact about retirement accounts?
  9. 9
    When did you last review your beneficiaries?
  10. 10
    Which subscriptions would you want someone to review?
  11. 11
    Where do you keep your tax papers?
  12. 12
    Who prepares your tax return?
  13. 13
    How do you keep track of regular donations?
  14. 14
    Where would someone find your mortgage papers?
  15. 15
    Who knows about any storage rental?
  16. 16
    Which accounts belong to you both?
  17. 17
    Where do you keep records of money owed?
  18. 18
    Who should someone contact about your pension?
  19. 19
    What would you want someone to pay first?
  20. 20
    Would you like to make an account list together?
  21. 21
    Who is your main doctor?
  22. 22
    Where do you keep your medicine list?
  23. 23
    Which pharmacy do you use?
  24. 24
    Who would you want at a medical appointment?
  25. 25
    Who have you chosen to speak about your care?
  26. 26
    Where do you keep your health care papers?
  27. 27
    Who knows where your health insurance card is?
  28. 28
    How would you like family to share updates?
  29. 29
    What helps you feel comfortable in a hospital?
  30. 30
    Who should someone call in an emergency?
  31. 31
    Which allergies should your medicine list include?
  32. 32
    Where do you keep your doctor contact list?
  33. 33
    Who could take care of things during a hospital stay?
  34. 34
    What would make it easier to ask for help?
  35. 35
    Which daily routines matter most to you?
  36. 36
    What would you want to bring for an overnight stay?
  37. 37
    Who could drive you to appointments?
  38. 38
    Would you like someone to take notes with you?
  39. 39
    What questions would you like to ask your doctor?
  40. 40
    When should we check your contact list again?
  41. 41
    Which phone do you use most?
  42. 42
    Who would you want to help with phone settings?
  43. 43
    Where do you keep your phone purchase records?
  44. 44
    Which email address do you use for important messages?
  45. 45
    Have you chosen a Legacy Contact?
  46. 46
    Would you like to review your Google account settings?
  47. 47
    Which photos would you most want the family to keep?
  48. 48
    Where do you back up your photos?
  49. 49
    Who knows which phone company you use?
  50. 50
    What online accounts should appear on your list?
  51. 51
    Which social accounts matter to you?
  52. 52
    What would you like to happen to your online photos?
  53. 53
    Who could help you find official account instructions?
  54. 54
    Do you use a password manager?
  55. 55
    Have you checked its official emergency access options?
  56. 56
    Which devices have family photos?
  57. 57
    Where do you keep receipts for those devices?
  58. 58
    Which online subscriptions would someone need to know about?
  59. 59
    Would you like to make a list of important accounts?
  60. 60
    When could we review your phone settings together?
  61. 61
    What do you want your family to understand about you?
  62. 62
    Which choices would you like to write down?
  63. 63
    Where should we look for your personal letter?
  64. 64
    Who would you want to look after your pets?
  65. 65
    What would your pet caretaker need to know?
  66. 66
    Which belongings have a story you want to share?
  67. 67
    Who should someone call about your home?
  68. 68
    Where do you keep spare keys?
  69. 69
    Which traditions would you like us to keep?
  70. 70
    What would you want us to do with family recipes?
  71. 71
    Who should know where your papers are?
  72. 72
    Who would you choose as a backup contact?
  73. 73
    What would help you feel that your plan reflects you?
  74. 74
    Which questions would you like to discuss with a lawyer?
  75. 75
    Is there anything you would rather discuss privately?
  76. 76
    Who should receive a copy of your contact list?
  77. 77
    Which wishes would you like to put in your own words?
  78. 78
    What would you want someone to know about your daily routine?
  79. 79
    What should we ask before making plans with you?
  80. 80
    What would you like us to talk about next?
  81. 81
    What did your childhood home look like?
  82. 82
    Who made you laugh when you were young?
  83. 83
    What was your first job?
  84. 84
    Which teacher do you still remember?
  85. 85
    What did you like to do after school?
  86. 86
    What song brings back a happy memory?
  87. 87
    How did you meet your closest friend?
  88. 88
    What family story should we record?
  89. 89
    Which place would you like us to visit together?
  90. 90
    What did your parents cook for a celebration?
  91. 91
    Which recipe would you like to teach us?
  92. 92
    What object reminds you of someone you love?
  93. 93
    What did you enjoy about raising a family?
  94. 94
    What skill are you glad you learned?
  95. 95
    Which photograph would you like to tell us about?
  96. 96
    What changed your mind about something important?
  97. 97
    Who helped you at a turning point?
  98. 98
    What are you proud of that we may not know?
  99. 99
    What would you like younger relatives to remember?
  100. 100
    Which story should we ask you about another day?

Read the family conversation guide

Good to know

Do I have to ask all 100?

No. Pick a few that fit your visit. Your parent can skip any question.

Are my answers saved?

This tool collects no answers to the conversation questions. Your selection stays in this page until you leave.

Can I print a shorter list?

Choose Pick 10 for me. Print shows those ten questions on one sheet.

Related

Keep your family ready

We help you put your accounts, papers and wishes in one place.

Get started
Get started